Family Update

I don't do a family update very often because I feel like the kids should be keep their own history.  I feel like they should but I don't think any of them are.  I can't tell everything going on in their lives but I can give a short update.

Mindy and the kids have struggled a lot since Jeffrey has been gone.  However, Mindy is a strong individual and has been able to pull things together.  She has been given a couple promotions and is making enough money to support her and the kids.  She just bought a home and seems to be settled and mostly happy.  I know she misses Jeffrey greatly but has risen to the challenge with dignity of being a single mom. Maddie is working full time at a call center and seems to like the job and the hours.  Ryan has a girl friend that he spends most of his time with and will be finishing up high school next year.  Grayson has struggled with school and I think has been doing home schooling until Mindy finds a school best suited for his needs.  CJ, we just found out, is engaged and will be getting married in a couple months.  Justin is working and still single as of this writing.  Ryan may be our only hope for great grandchildren from the Jeff Hintze line.

Lynda Ann is working in the emergency room 3 nights a week.  Jeff is working for Fidelity.  Emmi is now a senior at BYU.  She is working full time at Dugway.  She did that last summer and they wanted her back again this summer with a raise.  She works Mon. thru Thur. and has 3 days off.  They give her a brand new truck to drive back and forth.  Pretty nice.  Mallory is completely her high school years this May, graduating with honors and awards from high school and seminary.  She is preparing to go on a mission in the fall of this year.  She will be sending in her papers come June.  Abby will be having a new adventure this year.  She has been training to be a guide dog trainer.  She will be getting a yellow lab puppy the middle of May.  She is also in all the honors programs at Stansbury High School.  Hayley will be graduating from junior high in May and will begin her high school years in the fall.  She is an avid reader.  You never see Hayley without a book in her hand.  Andrew just turned 12 and is passing the sacrament each Sunday.  He is involved in scouting - much to his grandpa's happiness.  He will begin his junior high school in the fall. 

Tucker had to start a new job again this year but seems to be doing well.  Jamie is teaching full time at the schools and says she really likes it.  The girls, Jordyn Lyn, Lexi and Peyton are 100 per cent involved in dancing, winning all kids of rewards and medals.  We are sorry they live so far away.  We don't get to see them dance - only on a video - which we are happy to see.  All three are doing well in school.

Maren still working at the hospital and Greg working for Delta.  Maren loves Cross Fit and running.  Jaden will graduate this year from high school and is hoping to be recruited to a college for football.  Taylor has excelled in the drill team winning awards and achieving scholastically.  She will begin her senior year this fall.  Brock and Boston are happy cute boys full of energy and fun to be around. 

Lyndsy - not sure where to begin.  Lyndsy and James are divorced.  James is remarried and living in the home that he and Lyndsy bought.  Lyndsy has changed her whole life style.  She wants nothing to do with the church and has moved to the very worldly side of life.  James has the kids full time and Lyndsy gets them on the weekends.  James has River back in school and in counseling and he is doing so well.  He is at the top of his class in math and his reading has improved greatly.  We are grateful that James has him back in school and on a regular schedule.  Desmond seems to be happy and doing well with James and James wife.  I could write volumes on Lyndsy and what has taken place the last two years but it is her story and her journey and I'm sure her story will be very different from mine.

Spencer is still living in Colorado and Derek in China. 

And that is that is the short readers digest of the family update.

Jamie's 40th birthday

Today is Jamie's 40th birthday.  Neal and I called her this morning and sang Happy Birthday to her.  I'm sure this isn't a birthday that she will remember with any fondness.  She was taken to the hospital yesterday with a swollen leg.  Apparently she bruised her knees very badly 5 weeks ago chasing after Rusty, then she twisted her right ankle two weeks ago and it was incredibly slow to heal and stayed swollen.  Last week at the dance competition she got a latex infection when she put some tape on her leg to help keep her ankle stable.  The picture is what her leg looks like now.

She is in a lot of pain and her muscles in her arm and jaw are cramping up.  According to Tucker, the hospital ran a bunch of tests and drew blood.  The blood work came back clear.  The doctor put her on strong antibiotics and told her that she needed to rest and keep her leg elevated until the swelling went down and the antibiotics had a chance to do the job.  What a way to spend your birthday.

I sent some chocolate covered strawberries to Jamie for her birthday and she text me and said she got them yesterday just after she got home from the hospital and it brightened up a really hard day. 

We are so grateful that she is doing better and wish her good days ahead.  We LOVE you Jamie and wish you a very happy birthday! 

A date with Neal

While Annie and the girls and I were shopping and lunching with Susan and Lila in Provo, Neal drove out to Stansbury and went golfing with Jeff and then on the way back he stopped and had a pedicure.  He invited me to come get one, but I had just had mine done and they didn't need it just yet.  He got home about 6:00 and we left for the theater to see The Zookeepers Wife.  It was an excellent movie and a true story about a couple who owned a Jew in Poland and helped hide over 300 Jews from extermination.  I would totally recommend it. 

On the way home we stopped and did some shopping and I bought this Dahlia in memory of my mother.  This was her favorite flower besides Poppies.  Neal and I have tried to plant them in the pots outside but they never seem to do well so I'm going to just leave them in the pop they are in right now and keep it inside so that it doesn't get the hot sun from patio.  I also think Neal watered them too much.  They like to get completely dry before soaking them each time.  It is a beautiful plant and I look at it and think of mother.  I miss her.

Busy Weekend

Friday evening Neal and I entertained Keith and Zona Smith and John and Chris Springman.  Both husbands were in the stake presidency when I was serving as the stake relief society president.  We have wanted to get the group together since I've been released and this was the first night we were able to do this.  The two couples got together often and played Rook.  We were anxious to get them together with us and teach them how to play 6-handed Rook. 

We had a delicious dinner of Chinese Haystacks and then played Rook.  I have to add here that Neal was carrying the hot chicken sauce that goes on the haystacks and he dropped the bowl!!  He actually caught it and was able to get the bowl to land on the bar.  We had the chicken sauce running down the side of the bar and some had splattered all over the floor.  It was a mess to clean up.  We lost about 2 cups of sauce but still had enough for dinner. 

It was a fun evening and they seemed to really enjoy playing Rook with 6 instead of 4.  I believe the winner for the evening was John Springman.  He seemed to get all the hands.  One hand that was dealt to him he was able to call his partners and then just lay down the hand and declare!  We had two 360 hands dealt that night.

Saturday morning I met Annie, Abby and Mallory at Home Depot on 21st South.  We then drove to Orem to meet Susan and Lila for our Mother's Day get-together.  We met at ShopKo and from there went to Chili's for lunch.  Lunch was delicious and we had a wonderful visit and many laughs.  Lots of reminiscing.  We also exchanged Mother's Day presents.  Susan gave me two Spode Christmas bowls, some darling flour sack dish towels and a card with $50.00 Talbot money! 

 Lila Mae gave me some Giorgio perfume and a Jackie Evancho CD. 

 The gingerbread man is hand stitched in the middle of the towel.  I'll be afraid to use them for fear I'll wear them out from use and washing. 

 I have to tell the story about the red ribbon.  I ran downstairs to get ribbon and a couple boxes to wrap the presents.  I came upstairs and proceeded to wrap the presents.  I put Susans present in one of the boxes I had found downstairs and wrapped it.  I look around for the ribbon that I had brought upstairs and couldn't find it anywhere.  Good Grief!!  I look all over on the counters, the floor, every place I could think of and couldn't find the stupid ribbon.  I finally had to stop and replay in my mind what I had done with the ribbon when I was downstairs.  It dawned on me that I had thrown the ribbon in the box to bring it upstairs and forgot to take it out!  I put Susan's clogs in the box on top the ribbon and wrapped it!  So when I gave Susan the present I told her that I wanted the ribbon back.  We had a good laugh over that one! 

Email for Judith Lee

I arrived at work this morning and immediately checked in with my email hoping that there would actually be a response to my email sent to the family of Jeff's birth mom.  Nothing came back.  I was a little disappointed but I need to be patient.  If I'm supposed to do her temple work then it will happen eventually.  This is the letter I sent and will be sending until I get a response from someone out there:

Dear family member of Judith:

I am writing this email in hopes of finding and getting a response from a family member of Judith Lee Prichard Werner.  My name is Jeannine Maxfield and I live in Salt Lake City, Utah.

On May 20, 1968 a little boy was born to Judith.  For circumstances that only she knew and understood, she made the decision to give the baby up for adoption.  My husband and I were blessed to be given the opportunity to adopt this little boy when he was just 3 days old and raise him as our own.  We had him for 48 wonderful years.  He passed away unexpectedly on January 28, 2016.  He accomplished much in his short life.  Marriage, children and a PHD in medicine.  Judith would have been proud of him as were we.

I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (commonly known as the Mormons).  Because our beliefs are centered around families, genealogy, and doing temple work for those who are deceased, I am writing you.  I have always had a deep love and gratitude for Judith for giving me the opportunity to be a mother.  I know her decision must have been the hardest decision she ever made in her life.  Since Jeffrey's death my interest in finding Judith became a high priority.  I was saddened when I learned that, she too, had passed away at a young age.

I would very much like, vicariously, to do her temple work bur cannot do that without permission from a blood relative.  This is why I'm reaching out to Judith's family, hoping that one or all of you will respond to my email and that I might have permission to move forward with Jeffrey's birth mother and researching his ancestry.

Thank you for taking the time to read this email.  I hope to hear from you and want to reaffirm how grateful I am and the love I have for Judith and her great gift to me.

Most sincerely,

Jeannine Maxfield

P.S.  A little more about us.  My husband and I have 7 children.  The two oldest, Jeffrey and Lynda Ann were adopted.  Lynda Ann has also done research on her birth parents. 

Finding Jeff's birth mother - Judith Lee Prichard Henderson Werner

I contacted my cousin, Sandy, in Seattle and gave her what information I had about Jeffrey's birth mom.  She did some research and was able to come up with a little more information.  I went on line the next day and tried to do more research with what she had given me, but quickly realized that I know very, very little about how to research names.  I mentioned to Susan that I wished I knew someone that I could hire to do the research for me.  She suggested her friend, Jane's husband Paul.  She said the he is a professional research specialist and if I gave him what information I had he might be able to give me some leads.  I need to contact a living blood relative of Jeff's birth mother that will give me permission to do her temple work. 

I gave the information to Paul who immediately went to work and the very next day sent me an email with volumns of names, a few phone numbers, addresses and even neighbors that might be a resource for me to contact.

He said that he found a living relative name Denise Werner and her address and phone number.  He also sent me 24 pages full of names and addresses, some phone numbers and a few email addresses.  Last night I put the phone number in my cell and sat there for about 10 minutes just looking at it wondering if I really had the courage to hit call.  I finally did.  I was almost releaved when no one answered and yet a little disappointed.  I don't answer phone numbers that I don't recognize so wasn't all that surprised.  I left a message telling them my name and where I was calling from and that I was looking for a living relative of Judith Lee Prichard Henderson Werner and asked them if they would call me back.  I called again later that evening but still no answer.  I did the same again this morning with no answer but leaving another message.

I decided that I wasn't going to get anyone to call me back so I made a list of all the email addresses that Paul had found and I wrote a letter (which I will post tomorrow) and sent it to the first 16 people on the list.  8 of the emails came back undeliverable but 8 went through.  So now we play the waiting game.  I will give this first set of emails until next Monday and see if I get any response and then if I don't I will go to the next group of 16 and try again.  I will keep trying until I have exhausted all the emails and then I will compose a letter similar to the email message and I will send letters to all the addresses that Paul found.  Someone out there has to be willing to at least respond to my request whether it be a negative or a positive. 

I'm excited and yet apprehensive about what I'm doing.  I certainly don't want to hurt anyone by giving information that people in Judith's family may not be aware of.  I will up date my blog as the days go by so that I have a complete record of this journey I'm on. 

I want to be able to Judith's temple work for her but cannot do it unless the church gets permission from someone in her family. 

Easter Sunday

Mallory and I both were asked to speak in Sacrament meeting today.  Our meetings are from 9 to 11, her meetings from 11 to 2!  Now there was a tender mercy.  I was able to fulfil my responsibilities of speaking and leading the choir and then Neal and I were able to head out to hear Mallory speak in her meeting.  She did an amazing job and is going to make an incredible missionary.  I can't believe how confident she has become being in front of people and sharing her testimony and knowledge of the gospel of Jesus Christ.  We were so proud of her.  She gave a beautiful talk and I notice that her mom and dad were both dabbing their eyes along with me.  We were all touched by the spirit and our testimonies strengthened. 

After the meeting Annie invited us over to her home for dinner.  What a beautiful Easter Sunday.

A couple more Easter pictures

It was great to have Mindy, Grayson and Maddie come for dinner.  Mindy and Grayson stayed for the egg contest.  Mindy has a busy schedule ahead of her.  She will be traveling for the next two weeks.  She also shared some news about CJ.  He is engaged and will be getting married sometime this summer.  Congratulations CJ!

Abby receives notice about her guide dog.

Abby has been chosen to take care of, raise and train a guide dog.  She was given the yellow balloons with a card telling her that she would be receiving a yellow lab puppy in the middle of May.  All she knows is that the puppy will have a name beginning with the letter S.  Apparently every litter of puppies are all named with the beginning same letter of the alphabet.  Abby has been going to classes and learning all she needs to know about raising a guide dog.  Right now she is tending a 5 month old guide dog names Patronis.  What a name!

Our Saturday gathering

Everyone got her at 3:00 and we had prayer and then sat down for a traditional dinner of ham, potatoes, carrots, salad and rolls.  We visited for a while and then had the Easter Egg contest.  Emmi wins for the 4th time and gets to take the trophy home!  We also had a treasure hunt for the kids and then played some games before everyone had to leave.  It was a great day, great weather and lots of family love.  We miss those who couldn't come.  Lyndsy chose to spend the day with Ben's family.  We missed have her and River and Desmond with us.  Tucker and Jamie were in Texas visiting some friends and we certainly missed them.  It has been a long time since we've had Tucker's family here for Easter.
Some pictures of the day's celebration:  Neal had Andrew and Hayley help him plant the two big pots out by the swimming pool while we were waiting for the rest of the family to come.

 Abby made Easter bunny cupcakes with miniature M&M's in the middle and a chocolate bunny on top the cupcake.  We love them!  Thanks Abby for always being so creative.

 Of course, Greg changed our glass door to a screen.  It is that time of year again.  He is so good to always do that for us.  Thanks Greg.  It is nice to have the breeze come through the house.

 Annie kids made mine and Neal's Easter eggs for the contest.  You can already guess what Neal's was.

 Emmi made this egg.  I just about chose this one over the Y but stayed with the my original choice.

 Lynda Ann made this one of a whale.  You can't see, but she even has eyes on him.

 The contest begins.

 The final two people.  Emmi is the winner for 2017!  Her 4th time.

 Mindy, Maddie and Grayson came and Mindy brought me this tulips.  There are beautiful and I love them.  Thank you Mindy.  It was so good to have you spend some time with us.

I'm speaking in Sacrament meeting tomorrow at 9:00.  I will write about my talk tomorrow.  Mallory is also speaking so Neal and I are hoping we can get out to Stansbury in time to hear Mallory speak.  Their Sacrament Meeting begins at 11:00 a.m.  We should just make it.

Easter preparations

There is always a lot to do when the family is coming over for dinner. We didn't have an Easter egg hunt this year because Boston is the only one who wanted to do it so instead, Abby prepared a  scavenger hunt for all the kids.  Neal and I put together an Easter goodie bag for each grandchild. 

We then go the table set and everything ready for Saturday's celebration.  The center piece is a chocolate cake Easter Bunny with his tail and paw on top and his head buried in the barrel.

RS Lesson for the Retirement Center

The lesson this month was on Coming to Know Christ from President Hinckley's life.  It is always a challenge to come up with a lesson that is applicable to these sweet older brothers and sisters.  I told a couple stories and then I handed out a 7 day Walk With Christ packet.  Each day they take one piece of paper out of the packet, read the story and the scriptures that are suggested.  I also got each one of them a frosted Easter egg sugar cookie for Easter.  The loved the sugar cookie!  I hope some of them will actually follow the guidelines in the handout.

Sunday Morning 4.19.17

These are two pictures that I took this morning as I looked out the window.  We were told that we might have snow on the valley floor and this time they weren't kidding.  As I look out the window now, the sun is shining and most all of the snow has melted.  That is what I LOVE about Utah weather.  We get all kinds of weather in the Spring of the year and it doesn't last too long as Spring turns to Summer.    I sent these pictures to Tucker this morning because I wanted him to see what he is missing. :-)

Jordyn Lyn Maxfield

Amazing as it is, Jordyn Lyn turned 15!  It is hard to believe that she is already 15 years old.  I so remember when she was born - way too early - and going up to the intensive care unit to peek at her.  We couldn't touch her, we could only look.  This tiny little thing that we all prayed would survive her vicarious and untimely beginning.  We love you so much, Jordyn Lyn and wish you a wonderful year of happy times and adventures.  jWhat a beautiful girl!!

General Conference

The older I get, the more I LOVE general conference.  I recognize the modern advancement in technology for people all over the world to hear or watch general conference.  We are a world wide church and growing strong.  I'm so thankful for the testimony I have of the gospel.  I'm grateful for the sacrifices my mother made when she joined the church and moved us to Provo so that we could be surrounded by members of the church.  She never slacked in her commitment to the church and her testimony.  Her example and teachings stand as a witness to me.  All the talks were amazing.  My favorite was Ronald A. Rasband who talked about recognizing the Holy Ghost in our lives.  All the messages were timely and all touched my heart.  Elder Weatherford T. Clayton talked about the Plan of Salvation and I thought about Jeffrey and it confirmed again my testimony of life here after.  I love and miss my Jeffrey.  But I know I will be united with him again and I know he is busy watching over his family.  To my posterity - I know the church is true.  Stay true to your beliefs and hang tight to the iron rod - the word of God.
Picture of me watching conference Saturday morning snuggled under my blanket that Annie made me for Christmas. 

Neal golfing with the country club group.

I found this picture of Neal that was taken when he golfed with the country club group when we were in St. George last week.  He said it was a fun experience, but wasn't easy golfing with these older men who golf almost every good day of their lives.  All retired and all members of the country club.  I don't know when Neal and I will ever officially retire and I know that we will never belong to a country club!

Notice Neal is showing off his underwear!  Ron Stanfield is to Neal's right, back row. 

Monday I got a call from Annie telling me that she wasn't feeling well and felt really sick.  Chest hurt when she coughed, hard to breathe and just felt sick all over.  Tuesday our conversation was pretty much the same only she felt worse.  Tuesday she finally went to the doctors, after dropping the kids off for school.  The doctor's assistant check her and told her to take Ibuprofen and sent her home.  Wednesday morning she was worse so went back and the same stupid person told her that she needed antibiotics for her strep throat.  Strep throat?  Where did that come from?  Annie had never been tested for strep and her throat didn't hurt, it was her chest and breathing that was the problem.  With very little trust in the diagnosis she went home.  Thursday morning feeling increasingly worse, she went back and the assistant told her that she needed to give her something for her sinus infection!  Annie has had enough issues with sinus infections to know for a fact she did not have sinus problems.  She got up and left and as she was walking out the door she said, "I'm going to the hospital where they know what they are doing!"  She went to the emergency room where she works and they check her and admitted her to the hospital.  Annie said as she was walking in one of the nurses saw her and said, "Lynda, are you okay?"  Lynda said she burst into tears and the nurse immediately took her in and that is when they determined that she needed to be admitted.  She had pneumonia is both lungs, fever and the inability to breathe normally.  They also thought that she might have a blood clot in her lung, but thank goodness, that was not the case.  She was admitted on Thursday and given a heavy does of antibiotics.  She came home Friday midday with the direction from the doctor to continue the prescribed medication and take it easy.  I will add here that I was extremely emotional after losing Jeffrey I just didn't think I could go through this again.  I am so thankful for modern medicine, good doctors and medications we can take to heal sicknesses that in years past might have shortened our time.