Life brings great happiness and great sadness

Our family is experiencing great sadness at the passing of our son, Jeffrey Ross Hintze. But along with the sadness is the joy of remembering what he brought into our lives.  Everyone loved Jeff and loved to be around him.  He could keep us all entertained with hospital stories, sports stories, family stories, etc.

Life does bring happiness, sadness, joy and pain, when we have little control over them.  I guess it is how we handle the great successes and challenges that make us who we are.

There was a song that my mother sang over and over in her last few months of her life.  "Red River Valley".  The first of the song says from this valley you say you are going. we will miss your bright eyes and sweet smile".  I am going to miss Jeff's bright eyes and his smile.  He had a wonder sense of humor.  For a while he leaves us behind to visit with those who have gone before.  We are now left in his absence to strengthen one another in our conversations, in our prayers and in our doings.  Certain things stand out in the hearts and minds of our family.  Impressive things that make up a legacy left to us.  A legacy that enriches our lives.  Not wordly things, not wealth but an example of a life that went about doing good and brought so much happiness to all of us.

As Jeff leaves us now for awhile, we will never forget the hours we spend with him.  His influence and his exquisite sense of humor that he always shared with us.  Although the sunshine that brightened our lives for a while has dimmed with his passing, I look forward to the time that I can be reunited again.

How I loved this son of mine.  For he was mine the moment that tiny 5 lb. 1 oz. bundle was placed in my arms.  I can go back to all the moments of cradling him in my arms, watching his every breath, feeling his tiny little fingers and knowing with a surety that he was just moments from our Heavenly Father.  He was a cherished gift, an answer to endless prayers and the love of my life.  I will miss you, my son..  From my heart to your heart!

 Two of my favorite pictures of my Jeffrey.  There is another one of him with a spoon in his mouth.  I'll have to get a copy of that from Mindy.

Mallory's date!

Mallory sent me these pictures of her date to the Snowball dance at the high school.  Nice that there are lots of tall boys to choose from.  This young man is on the seminary council and one that Mallory had wanted to go to the last dance with but someone had beat her to it.  She found out that right after she asked him, someone else did.  She was happy that she had not waited.  Don't know all the details of the dance and her date but here are some cute pictures.

 One of the girl's dad ordered a limousine for them.  That was a fun surprise.

Ah, how fun to be young again - well not for me.  I'm enjoying the season where I am in my life right now.  But I love hearing about my grandchildren's adventures.

I love three-day weekends!

This Monday is Martin Luther King Day and we have it off and I'm excited for an extra paid day!
Friday began the long weekend by leaving work at 3:30 to pick up Neal at the Front Runner.  From there we headed to the movie theater to see Concussion. It was a great movie along with popcorn and a drink.  After the movie we were hungry for something sweet so we stopped at the ice cream stand and Neal went crazy.  We both got the giggles because he just went ballistic! He not only bought three scoops of different flavors of ice cream but also bought a box of some special cookies.  They are very different and actually delicious.  I think the bill came to $30.00!!  Yes, just for ice cream and cookies!  It was a very fun evening and a nice way to begin a long holiday weekend.

 Saturday morning found us getting up at our leisure and doing some much needed projects like changing some light bulbs in the stairwell, the master bedroom and the bathroom.  We ran to the container store and bought special hangers for his suit pants and some storage buckets.  Neal spent some time organizing some of his clothes that are seasonal, folded and put them in the containers to be stored on the top shelf of the closet.  I encouraged him to not be afraid to throw things away that he hadn't worn for a couple years.  I think he threw two white shirts and 4 hats was all.  At least it was a beginning!  Saturday was a lazy afternoon of watching football games, reading, doing the wash and stitching.  Neal was working on taxes, school and watching the football games.  I love those kind of Saturdays!  I'll be writing more as the weekend progresses.

Some things are hard to post but it is history

So they say that things come in threes.  Well this past week has been no exception.

 The first bad news came from Susan telling me that Mary found out that her husband was having an affair with a young girl (a coach) at the high school where he works and the girl works and where Mary works.  The really sad thing is that the coach is Troy's youngest daughters coach.  Very sad and heartbroken for Mary.

The second news came Sunday night from Susan telling me that Kenny, Buster's son had committed suicide by shooting himself.  Never thought I would ever have to experience something that close to home.  Very sad ending for a nephew who had nothing in his life except drugs and alcohol.

The third news and I hope the last for a long time came again from Susan that Lila Mae had been on her way to work, was in the middle of the intersection and a girl ran the red light, clipped the back of Lila's car causing her car to spin and roll over.  The officers had to pull her out through the windshield.  She seems to be fine, which is a miracle.  Her car was totaled and the girl who hit her has no car insurance!!  Of course!!  We are just grateful that Lila Mae wasn't hurt and that we didn't lose her.

A sleepover for Emmi

I got a call from Emmi last Friday night asking me if she could come on the Front Runner and spend the night at our house and hang out with me on Saturday and then go back to school Saturday evening.  I told that would be fine.  I picked her up about 9:30 p.m.  We came back to the house and grabbed the new quilt that Annie made for Neal and I watched Deceived.  (Emmi had never seen the show).

Such a great movie!  Creepy, suspenseful and a nail biter at the end!
The next morning Emmi and I hoped in the Jeep and off to run a ton of errands that I had lined up and to have breakfast together.  We ended up at The Cheesecake Factory for a brunch, then to Eddie Bauer, browsing the mall, out to South Towne Mall and back to Talbots, then Costco and finally home.  Ron and Judy were coming over for dinner and bridge at 5:30 so we put Emmi on the Front Runner at 3:30 with hug and a kiss goodbye.

It was a fun weekend and an unexpected visit from Emmi.  I had such a fun time with Emmi and happy that she still likes to hang out with her grandmother.

Judy's gift

I had to post this picture of Judy and the gift that Neal and I gave her for Christmas.   This is to hang in her cabin in Scofield.  Her husband, Ron, saw this at someone home in Seattle and took a picture of it.  He then asked me if I thought I could get a pattern and do it for Judy.  It took some hunting on the internet but I was able to locate a pattern.  I don't do embroidery work.  I do counted cross stitch. Believe me there is a big difference.  I learned to embroidery when I was young but when I learned to do counted cross I never went back to doing embroidery work.  Susan loves this kind of stitchery so I asked her to help me with this.  After it was done and cleaned Neal took it to the framing shop to be framed.  This is the end result with a very happy recipient.

One more Christmas gift

In the mail we got a gift from Tucker and Jamie and the girls.  It was a gift certificate for Market Street Grill.  They know that is our favorite restaurant.  We were thrilled with the VERY generous gift card and the note that came with it.  Thank you Tucker, Jamie, Jordyn Lyn, Lexi and Peyton Jean.  Each time we eat there we will think of who gave us the gift.  Love it and love you.

Dinner with the adults

Neal and I wanted to have dinner with just the adult children so we planned a get together for Sunday evening.  Everyone said they could come but at the last minute Maren couldn't get off work and Greg couldn't come either.  We did have Jeff and Annie, Jeff and Mindy and Lyndsy and James.  We had a delicious dinner of home made potato soup (made by Annie) with a salad and fruit and ice cream for dessert.  After dinner we informed the kids that the reason we had them there was to tell them that we wanted to rent a beach house for the family for next Christmas.  We had Tucker and Jamie on the phone and were able to include them in the conversation.  Everyone seemed excited about the prospects.  Neal and I just felt that with Emmi getting close to graduating from college, Mallory and Jaden reaching missionary age in two years that this might be the last time we could get the whole family together before missions and marriages.  This is the picture of the table settings for the adult dinner.  Some times it is nice to just have a small group!  I loved using our brown and white china.

 Of course I had to take a picture of my Christmas Cactus.  This wonderful gift blooms every single Christmas and I love it.

My new door wreath for January

This snowman is one that Susan got for me from some lady in Midway who makes them.  I fell in love with it when I saw it and had to have one.  He just adds the perfect decoration for the cold, snowy month of January.  Don't you just love it?

Taking down 2015 after bringing in the New Year

Thursday evening Neal and I went to the Bridge Center to play bridge and bring in the New Year.  We had a fun evening and for a change didn't come in at the bottom of the bridge players scores.  We got home about midnight.  It was a nice evening and a quiet way to bring in the New Year.

Friday morning we got up at our leisure and decided that we might as well take advantage of the extra day and take down Christmas.  It doesn't take as long to put things away as it does to set them up.  We got everything down and in boxes and packed away for another year.  We couldn't lift the big boxes with the tree in them so had to wait until our kids came over Sunday evening to put them up in the loft for us.  With Neal's shoulder giving him problems it just wasn't possible to lift them up.

Christmas Day

We woke up this morning to new snow on the ground and more falling.  We debated whether we were going to brave the storm but decided to go ahead and see just how bad the roads were.  We knew we could always turn back.  Our first stop was Maren's.  We got there about 9:45.  The roads were horrible but if you took your time, they were okay.  Maren's family was all up and from the looks of things they had a merry Christmas.  Santa was good to them.  Because of the snow, Greg had to go to work early that morning so we didn't get to see him.  Maren and the kids were getting ready to go over to Sylvia and Dan's home for brunch so Neal and I left there about 10:30 and headed toward Jeff and Mindy's.  I called Mindy and she seemed a bit frustrated.  I don't know the whole story but from what I could gather, her family ended up wanted her to host the brunch at her home instead of going over to her mom's, which is the tradition.  Mindy was trying to get ready for that event and so I asked her if she would prefer if we didn't barge in on an already large group descending on her place and she seemed happy that I recognized her stress.  So we skipped that stop and went to Lyndsy and James home to see what Santa had left their little family.  Again, it was quite a haul.  Lots of toys and fun stuff for the kids and James and Lyndsy faired well themselves.  James informed Neal that Lyndsy had given him a home brewery for making beer.  Neal made some comment, I didn't bother to respond.  When we left and got in the car we both busted up laughing.  I think laughing at the absurdity of the gift and James making sure we knew about it and trying to cover up the saddness we really felt at how far they have withdrawn from the gospel and for some reason found it necessary to throw that in our face yet again.

But, we shook that news off and merrily headed our way out to Stansbury.  On the way, we stopped at a Starbucks and got some hot chocolate and for Neal to make a pit stop!  By this time the roads were pretty much cleared and just a few flakes of snow falling.  Early afternoon found us pulling up in front of Jeff and Annies.  Jeff was out shoveling the driveway.  The kids were happy to see us and were waiting for us to show us what they got and to play games.  Both of which we did.

Here are a few more pictures.  This one of the boys building their Legos.

 This was the main Christmas that we gave to each family with their names on it.  This one if of all the grandchildren.  Lynda Ann helped me do all of them.  We spent one whole day working on them. Not an easy project and I couldn't have done them with out Annie's expert help.  It was this project that generated her project of doing the quilt.

 Some time ago, Tucker found this counted cross stitch and asked me to do it for him.  He also wanted me to put the saying, "Do Not Quit" along the bottom.  I spent every extra moment that I had hoping to get this done for Christmas.  Actually the hardest part was figuring out the lettering and trying to make the "Q" look like a que ball.  I must have sewn, unpicked, sewn and unpicked that crazy "Q" a dozen times until Neal and I felt like it was as close as I could get it.  Neal took it to get ir framed, again hoping that it would be done in time for Christmas.  We didn't get it back until the Monday before Christmas and Neal put it in mail that afternoon with no promise from the post office that he would get it by Christmas Eve.  We were thrilled when we got this picture Christmas morning and even more happy that Tucker was pleased with it.

Jamie sent me this next picture telling me that she was very happy with the gum balls.  It has almost become a tradition to send her gum balls for Christmas and for her birthday.

Christmas Eve Family Gathering

This Christmas is the first in a long time where we have actually had snow on the ground and more predicted during the holidays.  I was grateful that we didn't get any snow on Christmas Eve until early Christmas morning.  With all the children coming over for dinner and the Christmas Eve festivities, it is always a worry if they are traveling in on snowy roads.

We planned on dinner at 4:00.  Neal and I set up all the tables that morning.  I spent the rest of the morning getting all the side dishes prepared and ready to be put in the oven and on the stove at just the right time to have everything ready to go on the tables at 4:00.  This year we had a rib roast and ham along with funeral potatoes, fruit and veggies.  Maren brought a delicious fruit salad that complimented the dinner perfectly.

Just a little before 4:00 I got a call from Mindy telling me that Jeff had a swollen cheek and the inside of his mouth was sore and swollen so she was sending the kids over and she was taken Jeff to Insta Care.  I was sorry to hear that.  Everyone arrived on time and we were able to have prayer and all be sitting down at the table by a little after 4:00.  We all had a wonderful time eating and visiting with each other.  Lynda Ann and Lyndsy helped clear the tables, get the first load of dishes in the dish washer and prepare for the next activity of the real reason why we were all there together.

Neal quoted, from memory, the scriptures in Luke of Christ's birth and we sang Silent Night.  Maren played the top hand and Neal the bottom hand on the piano.  They did pretty good.  We had hoped that Jeff and Mindy would be able to come but Jeff called and said they had been released but were going home.  Jeff had an infection of some kind and was given antibiotics and pain pills and sent home.  So we proceeded to hand out the presents and open them.  Neal and I were, as usual, spoiled by the kids.  I didn't take a picture of all the presents but had to take a picture of the quilt that Annie made for Neal and I.  It was a very teary moment for me knowing the hours and hours that she must have spent on putting this quilt together.  It is huge and if you read the words, it pretty much tells our life!  What an incredible gift!  Thank you Annie for the hours and hours of love that went into putting this gift together.  It shall be treasured always!!

 The next pictures are just random pictures of the family.

 The boys were all given legos and immediately went over to the table to put them together.  Fun that they are all about the same age and have close to the same interests.

All together I think it was a wonderful evening spent with the family.  Usually everyone stays and plays games but Christmas Eve adds another dimension to the activities knowing that Santa is getting ready to make and appearance and children need to be in bed for that coming event.  I would have to say that the day was perfect in every way except for missing Jeff and Mindy.  We were very sorry that they couldn't be with us, but very happy that Maddie, Ryan and Grayson came over to be apart of the festivities.

Off to Las Vegas Nevada for the Bowl Game

Neal worked with Craig Sorenson and got 3 tickets to the bowl game between Utah and BYU in Las Vegas.  Tucker was able to get a ticket from a friend and mentioned that he thought Jaden would really like to go so Neal offered the 3rd ticket to Maren for Jaden.  Maren said it could be part of Jaden's Christmas.

We left Friday afternoon about 3:00, picked up Jaden at 3:30 at the gas station just off of I-15 and Bangerter at 3:30.  We drove to St. George and stopped at In and Out Burger for dinner before settling in for the night at Ron and Judy's condo.

 We got up the next morning and stopped at McDonalds for some breakfast before we headed to Vegas.  It was nice to have the rest that night before.

We arrive in Vegas and with Sira's help found the stadium without a glitch.  We were there about 2 hours early, which was great, and found a perfect place to park.  We were on the front row facing the street and after the game were able to pull out over the curb and on our way!

As you know, the game was good for Utah fans and not so good for BYU fans.  Of course Tucker and I had a bet and I lost!  DANG!!!  I owe him a dinner at any restaurant of his choice.  We had a fun time at the game.  It was chilly for most and cold for me but we survived.  We headed home about 5:00.  We had heard of a storm that was supposed to be along the I-15 corridor but our prayers were answered and it didn't hit until about 5:00 a.m. Sunday morning.  The traffic wasn't too bad and moved smoothly all the way into Salt Lake.  Maren was at the gas station to pick up Jaden at 11:30 p.m.  We had a fun trip - fast, but fun.  It was exciting to have Tucker come and be with us. He is a good sport even when his team wins.  He did wonder if Jaden and I wanted to change allegiance but we  declined.  We are blue to the end!!

Our tickets were on the second row!  You could almost reach out and touch the field.

 My team warming up!

 We asked a policeman to take this picture and he kindly consented.

This picture below was the highlight of my whole experience down there.  This flag was rolled out while someone sang the National Anthem.  As they had just unrolled it two jets flew low across field.  They were so low and so loud that one had to cover their ears.  We watched bank and turn and come back.  I was brought to tears as the flew over and I looked at the flag.  How I love this great land of America and am proud to place my hand over my heart!  It was an amazing experience.  One that will not be forgotten for years to come!  God Bless America!!!!

Desmond turns 2!

This is a picture of Desmond in his jacket that Neal and I bought for him for his Birthday.  Also a picture of the cake Lyndsy made for him.  Happy Birthday Desmond!  We love you.

Annie's sub for Santa projects

Lynda Ann reminds me of her grandmother Ross.  Every year she gets herself involved with helping families who are less fortunate that she is.  Even though her kids won't get everything they want, that doesn't deter her from helping others.  This year, she and Abby made a bunch of quilts for some children.  She sent me these pictures of their finished projects.

You notice she doesn't just tie them she also borders them with ruffles or binding.  Lynda Ann teaches me and her children all the time what it is to share and give.

First beautiful snow storm of the year!

We woke up in the morning to our first big and beautiful snow storm of the year.  It was so gorgeous that we had to take a picture of Neal out shoveling and me standing underneath the our lighted snow caked tree.

A fun surprise!

For as long as I can remember there hasn't been a time when a box left on the front porch or a package in the mail address to me hasn't been the highlight of my day.  And I have to admit, it hasn't changed.  I think that is half the reason I order stuff on line once in a while so that I can wait in anticipation for the package to arrive.  It doesn't matter if the contents are for someone else, it is just getting a package.  How funny is that.  I came home the other day and there on the front porch was this huge box.  I tried to remember what I might have ordered but couldn't come up with anything.  I hauled the heavy box in the house and saw that it was addressed to Jamie.  Then I remembered that in her 'thank you' note she had mentioned to watch for a box of 'this and that' items.  This was their families way of saying and extra thank you.  Well, it was just like Christmas when I opened the package and peered inside.  It was so much fun pulling out all the different items that Jamie had observed Neal and I using while they were here.

 This picture is what I saw looking down in the box.

 This picture is all the items lined up on the counter that I took out of the box.  I just kept pulling more and more items out.  It was all packed in there expertly, that is for sure.  I didn't know you could order groceries like this.  She even remembered Neal's favorite breakfast cereal and that I love pumpkin right out of the can!

Thank you Jamie and family for a very fun and delightful surprise.  You certainly didn't need to do this but I have to admit that it was a delightful surprise!  I've already had a diet coke, opened the pumpkin and ate some, made some cookies, opened the nuts, used a couple ziploc bags, had a couple cookies and Neal has been working on the M&M candy and the cereal.  Oh yes, I used the flour to make chocolate chip cookies Sunday evening!  And, of course, Neal and I take our Meta Mucil every single morning!  Thank you, thank you, thank you.  We love you!

Neal turns 72!

Neal's birthday was fun and rather uneventful.  No big party, no huge cake with 72 candles and no piles of presents.  However, he and I had a fun evening together.  We went to a movie of his choice, Spectre - James Bond.  Great movie!  Neal stayed awake through the whole thing.  I was amazed.  We went to the theaters at Sugar House that have the reclining chairs.  I thought sure he would get so comfortable he would be out.  Didn't happen.  We had lots of popcorn and lemonade.  Can't go to a movie without popcorn!

 After the movie we went to Market Street and bought some clam chowder and a cob salad.  We took it home to eat rather than eat at the market.

After dinner we had a piece of lemon pie.  One that Neal had bought earlier at Marie Calendars.  He does love lemon pie!

 We had a very fun evening and I'm so grateful that we enjoy spending time together.  We never lack for things to talk about and always enjoy a good laugh with each other.  I love this man and am so thankful for his commitment to the church to me, to our children and to our home.  Thank you Neal for your love and for making these past 25 years together.

This picture below was a cupcake that David (his hair dresser) gave him for his birthday.  Neal got his hair cut that morning after attending the temple.